Help me #FindTheFeeling
Hi everyone,
We are raising funds in memory of our good friend and in Sandra's and Grace's cases husband and dad, John Broderick. John was a very special person to us all and to many other people. Since John's death there have been many feelings and emotions which we have all been going through but it's the sheer loss of our friend that is the overriding feeling. There is an empty feeling there.
Unfortunately this is not the first friend that I have lost to suicide, I certainly hope that it will be the last. My good friend David Walsh will very much be in my thoughts on the day also. He has never been too far from them since his death.
John died last August and in the 4 months since then almost €35k has been raised in his memory. This is mainly testament to the hard work of his family but it's also testament to how much John was loved by all. I wanted to do my small part and so will be running the Killarney half marathon in July 2019 to raise funds for Pieta House.
I have lost two very good friends to suicide but I have also suffered with my own mental health issues through the years. I know how important it is to have someone to talk to when things can appear desperate. Your mind can easily make you believe that it's best for everyone if you are no longer here. For anyone reading this who may be fighting their own demons, this is never the case, you are not now or ever will be a burden on your family or friends. Always talk with someone. If you don't want to confide in family/friends, then there will be people at Pieta House who are waiting to hear from you and to help you. Find the strength to pick up the phone and call. You, your family and your friends will be forever grateful you did.
Running the marathon will be Sandra, Brian Fleming, Liam Walsh, Mihai Marina and myself. If you see us on the day give us a shout - we might need the encouragement!
John was a very generous person and would always be there to help others. Hopefully we can help do the same in his memory.
Thank you in advance for your support!
Ruaidhri
Help me #FindTheFeeling
My Updates
Challenge No.2 - Killarney Half Marathon
The build up to the half marathon was not the best as I had to go a month without any running due to the state of my feet after the Jurassic Coast hike. The furthest I had run before the day was 11km while I had run/walked 12k so I was a bit worried about how I was going to fair. I certainly thought that I would be running/walking it.
The weather on the day was just about perfect and the 8am start was very welcome, althought the down side was I got eaten by midges! Four of us started together and we said before it started that we would also finish it together. The day was about John and we were not worried about how long it would take us. I remembered John all the way around. It was quite emotional at times and I wish he had been there to run it with us, although he would have been miles ahead! I was a bit lazy (as noted in previous posts) while John was alive and I know he would never have thought running a half marathon is something I would ever do. I'm sure he would have had a good laugh at my earlier struggles to get fit but I know that he would also have been very proud of all of us.
We took our time going around, chatted about John and different things, stopped for toilet breaks and to take photos (some added below). Apart from those stops we managed to run the whole course and didn't need to walk at all, finishing in around 2hrs 17mins. I am very proud of all of us for getting through it and running all the way. Thankfully I was a lot less sore afterwards than I thought I would be also.
The fundraiser has now raised more than €2k for which I am very grateful to everyone. It's much more than I expected to raise and I have been blown away by the generosity shown by everyone. Thank you so much.
It is just over 5 weeks to the final challenge and the trip to EVerest Base Camp. I have no doubt that it will be tough but I am really looking forward to it. It's not something which I ever thought I would be doing. It's also 1 month to the first anniversary of the death of John. It will be an emotional time for everyone. Hopefully the money raised in his honour will go towards helping somoeone else in a similar situation to get through it. Fighting depression can be a constant battle and it's so important to have someone there to help and to talk to when needed. The service provided by Pieta House is a vital one so thank you again for all of your generous donations. It really makes a difference.
ShareFirst Challenge - Hike along the Jurassic Coast
Almost 2 weeks ago on the 8th June (also my birthday!) I began my first challenge of attempting to walk 100km over two days, from Poole to Weymouth on day 1 and then from Weymouth to Bridmouth on day 2. Unfortunately it didn't go quite to plan.
I began my hike at 07:40 on the 8th and was going great until around 30km in. My feet had started getting sore and then both went at exactly the same time. The soles of my feet started burning up and I couldn't walk any further. I had to stop for a while, I changed the compeed plasters I had and used some foot cooling spray I had. But at that stage nothing would work but I was determined to continue on and complete the challenge.
At the 42km mark there was a medical tent where I went and got some attention although all they did was change the plaster on one of my feet and tape them both up. They didn't want to change the plaster on my right foot as they felt it would have taken the skin with it! From there I continued on for another 16km with extremely sore and blistered feet. I had began walking on the sides of my feet which was causing further problems.
At 22:30 I arrived at the finish point of day 1 in Weymouth by which time I could barely walk. I hoped a good nights sleep in my tent would see everything ok to carry on the next morning. Unfortunately when I woke up the next morning I still could barely walk and the blisters had grown. I went to the medical tent again to see if they could possiby help. They burst a couple of the blisters but that was no help. At this stage I felt that to continue would be silly and detrimental as my feet would only get worse and I still have a half marathon to do next month! It is now almost 2 weeks since the hike and my feet are almost healed. I worked from home for 3 days last week and barely left the house!
It is very disappointing that I didn't get to finish the challenge. Fitness wise I felt fine. I had no aches or pains (apart from the feet) and could have easily continued otherwise. I wore the boots on many long walks previously and the socks just a few weeks before when climbing Snowdon, all without any problems. But it's time to put the disappointment behind me now and concentrate on the half marathon and making sure that I finish it. I'm not worried about a time but just want to ensure I finish it.
All the pain and blisters are worth it if the money being donated by you very generous people means that even one persons life can be saved, and that persons family and friends can be saved the pain and can hold on to the person they love.
I will update again next after the half marathon.
ShareSnowdon & First 10k
The training has continued but been mixed. Hayfever has slowed down the running a bit but things are back on track.
On Sat May 4th I, along with 2 friends climbed Snowdon. One of my friends wanted to climb via Crib Goch. He did it as a teenager and said it would involve some scrambling but wasn't too bad. If you know me you will know that I don't like heights so I was a bit apprehensive and it turns out I had every right to be. It was frightening. We were walking along the top of a ridge for ages with drops on both sides of us. In another part we were going along ledges with sheer drops beneath us (picture of one area added below). I don't know how I managed to hold things together, there were times when I was breathing really loudly and quickly, about to cry and fully expecting to freeze but I managed to talk myself around. I kept telling myself that this would be the worst possible time to freeze...if you freeze you're probably done for! Any, we managed to get by and reach the summit and I'm sure the experience will stand to me for the future not least on my trek to Everest Base Camp.
As moetioned above running has been difficult with hayfever lately but on Sunday morning past (12/05) I decided to give it a go. I didn't know how I would fare, hoping to at least get a few km in but I managed to run my first ever 10km which was a great sense of achievement. It wasn't fast (58:18) but it certainly felt like progress. Then yesterday (16/05) I managed to surpass this and run 11km, reducing my 10km split by two minutes (56:10). I have my first 10km event this Sunday (19/05) at The Royal Berkshire 10k and havig now done it twice already it gives me great confidence that I can do it and push on to be able to get in the necessary training to be able to finish the half marathon in July.
It is now just 3 weeks until the fist of my challenges, 100km hiking along the Jurassic Coast. Time is flying but I am really looking forward to getting stuck in. I'm doing all this in memory of my friend John and hopefully I can help some people in his name but the exercise is doing me no harm at all. Even two years ago having given up smoking after 18 years and having had very little exercise for a lot of that time this would have been inconceivable so it certainly is a journey for me allbeit one I really wish would have happened under different circumstances.
I will give my next update after the 100km hike.
ShareProgress and new challenges
Since signing up to the half marathon I haven't done quite as much running as I would have liked but I have been trying to keep active. Every week I have a PT session and a pilates class and I have tried to go for a run or a hike once a week (laziness still sometimes took hold though!). Yesterday (03/04) I started a 10 week training plan so that I am up to speed come July time. So at least twice a week I will need to go for a run as well as having my PT and pilates.
Since signing up for the half marathon I have also now taken on some extra challenges which I hope will help to raise even more funds. This also means that I need all the training I can get! The challenges I will be undertaking are:
8th/9th Jun - 100km ultra challenge (hiking) along the Jurassic Coast
20th Jul - Killarney half marathon
4th - 21st Sep - Everest Base Camp
For someone who has done very little exercise over the last 20 years and smoked for a lot of it (giving up over 2 years ago) it has certainly been a bit of a shock to get back into training. It is and will be a massive challenge but I am determined to get through it for John but also for myself and my own health, both physical and mental.
This is week 1 of the training schedule. The first two weeks involve two 5km runs a week, it then moves up a bit and adds in sprints and hill training and by the end of week 5 I should be able to run 10k at which point I will give my next update.
Until then, look after yourselves and your mental health
ShareThank you to my Supporters
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Daniel Broderick
Hi Ruaidhri, Thank you .
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Mary Daly
Well done Ruaidhrí on taking on this challenge for a great cause
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Great idea Ruaidhri. Best of luck to you, Mihai, Brian and Sandra.
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Best of Luck Ruaidhri. From The Spillanes
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Good man Ruaidhri
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Déirdre Dempsey
Fantastic Ruaidhri. We will all be waiting for you at the finish line.
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Rhianna And Aston
Keep up the good work ruaidhri! Super proud of you already x
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Ruth Dwyer
Well done Ruaidhri (Sorry this is so late! Better late than never I hope!)
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Ian Stillwell
Good luck mate - Such a worthy thing to do.
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Bernie Carroll
Mind yourself Ruaidhri well done for doing this
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Mick Mccarthy
Mick & 2nd place winnings for quiz 02/10. Cheers All
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Marc Cooke
Impressive if daunting challenges, but a great cause fella, good luck.
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Well done Ruaidhri. Great cause.
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Well done Ruaidhri
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Well done
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Ksthleen Kelly
Good man Ruaidhri,you'll smash it.
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Noreen O'rourke
Best of luck Ruaidhri! I'm sure you will smash them all 👍👍
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Catherine Killeen
Best of luck Ruaidhrí !! Fabulous cause, wow you’ll be busy for the summer! Cx
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Sharon Honeyman
Good luck with all your challenges. you're a brave man!
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Best of luck Ruaidhrí
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Paola Uccellari
Go Ruaidhri!
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Best of luck Mr Daly!
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Dawn Woolhouse
I know you'll do it and do it well!
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Rob Austin
Great effort Ruaidhri - good luck!!
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Caroline Willis
Fair play to you Ruaidhri, you’ll be grand 😉
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Well done, you’ll do great
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Best of Luck, Ruaidhri. For a good cause.
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Best of luck Ruaidhri, great effort!
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Good luck Ruaidrhi !!
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Well done Ruaidhri. Great achievement.
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Well done Ruaidhrí.
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Fair play ruaidhri Best of luck
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Good luck!
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We wish you all the best in your endeavours and for the families you are helping!
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Best of luck on completing these amazing challenges.xx🏃☺
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Good Luck!!
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Good luck Ruaidhri
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Good luck on all the challenges
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Very impressive list of challenges! All the best!
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Good Luck mate, looking forward to seeing some photos of Everest... heard it's even bigger than Snowdon, but not as big a Alun Wyn Jones! :-)
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Good luck Ruaidhri!
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Good luck 🏃🏻♂️
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Good luck all!
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Well done Ruaidhri on a fantastic effort for a great cause 💞